It used to be pretty simple.
A man marries a woman.
They have a baby together.
The man is the father and woman is the
Well it’s not so simple anymore.
Today, you have to figure out if the man
who is marrying the woman is actually a man and if the woman who is marrying
the man is actually a woman.
Then you have to figure out if the man is
the father or the mother and if the woman is the mother or the father.
Is this starting to make your head spin?
If so, this headline will not help. It reads:
“Male partner pregnant with baby of transgender couple in Ecuador.”
What? A man is pregnant? And he’s part of a
transgender couple? How does this work?
According to the story published by Fox
Latino News, “A couple in Ecuador is making history with a unique pregnancy. The
father-to-be is carrying the baby of his transgender partner.”
The couple in question goes by the names Fernando
Machado and Diane Rodríguez, but Fernando was born María
while Diane was born Luis.
This means that the pregnant “male” is a
biological female who is now the man of the house (albeit a pregnant man) while
his female partner is a biological male who is now the lady of the house.
Although they take hormones to change their
bodies to conform to their gender perceptions, they have not had sex-change
surgery, otherwise, they would not have been able produce a baby together.
That means that Diane, who has male private
parts, impregnated Fernando, who has female private parts.
That also means that even though Diane
fathered the baby and Fernando will carry the baby in his womb (are you getting
all this?), Diane, the biological male who supplied the sperm, will be the
mother and Fernando, who provided the egg, will be the father.
As Rodríguez, who is a leading LGBT
activist in Ecuador, told the Associated Press, “We're trying to break the
myths about transsexuality.”
It looks to me like they’re creating a
whole new set of myths.
Rodríguez also said that, “The [Catholic] church
is always criticizing gays and homosexuals for adopting children, so it would
be a contradiction to criticize us for giving birth naturally.”
I would say that is putting a whole new
spin on the meaning of the word.
What is “natural” is for a man to father a
baby and for a woman to conceive, carry, and deliver that baby, just as happens
around the world every hour of the day, and just as has happened billions of
Sadly, this is not the first such case of a
unique transgender pregnancy.
Some months ago, I saw a TV show that told
a similar story of an American couple (they were convinced that their child
would have no problem understanding one day that the mother was really the
father and the father was really the mother).
And we all heard about the “pregnant man” a
few years back. (Note to earth: There is no such thing as a pregnant man.)
More than a decade ago, I read about a
couple where both the husband and the wife decided they were actually
transgender, with the husband becoming the wife and the wife becoming the
Apparently all this is “natural” too.
To be sure, it is tragic to read of the
many murders of trans-identified individuals in Latin America (the article
about “Fernando” and “Diane” closes with those very stats), and as I always
state when writing about these issues, I can’t imagine what kinds of emotional
and social trauma these individuals have endured.
It’s also possible that this couple claims
to be happy and well-adjusted, and they might be very committed to the child
they are bringing into the world.
But none of this minimizes the madness of
the situation nor does it contradict what I have repeated over and over again:
This cannot possibly be the best case scenario for these individuals, and this
“unique” pregnancy only highlights the need to get to the root causes of
transgender confusion so that we can help them find true wholeness.
As for the child of
this couple in Ecuador, can anyone say to me with a straight face that having
your mother be your father and your father be your mother is in the best
interest of the child? That there will no confusion or emotional scars for this
child as he or she grows up and understands biological and social realities?
Does anyone really believe that this is some kind of social “advance” and that
we should be celebrating it rather than mourning it?
May God help this couple find their real
identity, and may it happen speedily for the good of their offspring.
Otherwise, we’ll have to start carrying a
scorecard to sort out the members of a family.