Posted Jul 17, 2019 by Michael L. Brown

The headline announced, “'Bachelorette' star sends contestant home after sex before marriage spat, feud spills into Twitter.” Yes, “Sparks flew Monday night on the Fantasy Suites week episode of ‘The Bachelorette’ between star Hannah Brown and Luke Parker.” The sparks were flying over the issue of pre-marital sex.

Both Brown and Parker claim to be committed Christians, but for Parker, sex was to be saved for marriage. Not so for Brown, who told Parker she had had sex with another show contestant, not once, but twice. “I have had sex” she said, “and, like, Jesus still loves me.”

To be candid, I’ve never watched the Bachelorette (or the Bachelor), and I know nothing of Brown and Parker, other than what I’ve written here.

But I do know Jesus. And I do know the Scriptures. And the Word of God makes perfectly clear that sexual intimacy is a special gift for a husband and wife alone. Period.

To have sex before wedlock is called fornication. To have sex outside of wedlock is called adultery. And both are expressly forbidden in Scripture. Sex is too sacred to be squandered and abused and misused. It is for the marital bed alone.

But what of Brown’s statement that, “Jesus still loves me”?

She’s absolutely right. He still does. He loves us when we sin, even repeatedly.

He loves us when we’re immoral. And when we’re proud. And when we’re greedy. And when we’re hateful.

Yes, He still loves us, even when we sin.

But that doesn’t mean He is pleased with us when we sin. That doesn’t mean He looks the other way. That doesn’t mean we haven’t grieved Him. And that doesn’t mean He will not discipline us in His love.

In fact, Jesus spoke so strongly against sexual immorality that He said we should take radical steps to prevent it in our lives, emphasizing that those steps would be far less costly than going to hell (Matthew 5:27-30).

Paul also gave warnings in the strongest terms, writing, “But sexual immorality and all impurity or covetousness must not even be named among you, as is proper among saints. . . . For you may be sure of this, that everyone who is sexually immoral or impure, or who is covetous (that is, an idolater), has no inheritance in the kingdom of Christ and God. Let no one deceive you with empty words, for because of these things the wrath of God comes upon the sons of disobedience” (Ephesians 5:3–6).

The Book of Revelation, the last book of the Bible, has this to say about who will enter the eternal, heavenly Jerusalem and who will not: “Blessed are those who wash their robes, so that they may have the right to the tree of life and that they may enter the city by the gates. Outside are the dogs and sorcerers and the sexually immoral and murderers and idolaters, and everyone who loves and practices falsehood” (Revelation 22:14–15).

Willfully practicing sin is terribly costly.

Again, it’s true that Jesus still loves us, even when we sin. And it’s true that, one way or another, we sin every day, either in thought or word or deed. Even if we don’t sin consciously, we still fall short of loving our neighbor perfectly, even on our very best day.

But Jesus loves us enough that He calls us out of our sin. That He rebukes us for our persistent and willful sin. And that He warns us of the consequences of sin.

Hannah Brown said to Luke Parker, “Guess what? Sex might be a sin out of marriage, pride is a sin, too, and I feel like this is like a pride thing.”

And that, somehow, was justification in her eyes for having sex outside of wedlock. To paraphrase, “Well, I feel you’re bring proud, which is just as bad as having sex out of wedlock. So, if you can be proud, I can have sex.”

What she has sadly forgotten is that sex is sacred and that sin destroys. And that Jesus came to save us from our sins so that, from here on, we could live the rest of our lives in obedience to God.

The Lord does forgive us, freely and completely, laying down His life to save us from judgment and destruction. But salvation comes with requirements. God requires us to be holy.

As Paul wrote, “Flee from sexual immorality. Every other sin a person commits is outside the body, but the sexually immoral person sins against his own body. Or do you not know that your body is a temple of the Holy Spirit within you, whom you have from God? You are not your own, for you were bought with a price. So glorify God in your body” (1 Corinthians 6:18–20).

I pray Hannah Brown would take this to heart. In fact, I pray that each and everyone of us would take it to heart. We can’t let anything rob us of walking in the beauty of holiness.

Sign Up or Login to post comments.

Comments

user profile
Latinuproar posted a comment · Jul 21, 2019
Deancooper, I always see criticism in your comments from Dr. Browns articles. In this latest comment you keep talking about the things not mentioned in this article. As I was reading your comment I was thinking to myself there would be some answers to these questions you kept bringing up. I get to the end of your comment and nothing. No complete information you brought up, that was supposed to be so important to the reader, that made you "call Dr Brown out for", for not providing.
Deancooper posted a comment · Jul 19, 2019
I am glad you say that having sex outside of marriage is "terribly costly". But your answer sounds quite convoluted. One, you always say how you sin "even on your very best day". And yet sin is costly. What is the cost of the sin you commit every day? If Jesus has been calling you out of your sin, why do you keep sinning? I understand there's a difference between willful sin and sin committed in ignorance, but how long can you remain ignorant if Jesus is calling you out? If we sin every day and Jesus never sinned, what did He do that was so different from us? Is there really no hope of being like Him? Two, you never said why Hannah Brown's sin was different than all the other sins like pride. Nor did you explain why a God who loves us so much, and forgives us so much, would keep us outside of the heavenly Jerusalem or rain His wrath down upon us. Why does He forgive all your sins but not hers? Is He going to let you in but not her? Will she receive His wrath but you won't? Why? What's the difference? Sure, she's doing it willfully, but she's saying she can point out sins you're doing willfully too. And if you keep repeating the same sins that you sin every day, isn't that willful? And if you don't repeat them, why wouldn't you be done sinning after all these years? Just how do we become the spotless bride that Jesus is looking for if we sin so much? To me, the Bible says we can walk in the Spirit or we can walk in the flesh. We can either be of the day and in the light, or we can be of the night and in darkness. It sure sounds like He expects us to walk in the Spirit and bear the fruit He wants. How can that be done if we're walking in sin so much?