nathanz posted a comment · Jan 19, 2019
Interesting topic and poll. I wasn't part of the poll, but I would have said it's harder to be a man. It may not be easy to be a woman, but at this time in history, it's harder for men in America. I also agree with neptune's comments about men and fatherhood. I'm a little surprised Dr. Brown didn't list suicide statistics. Male suicides are up more than fifty percent in the U. S. since 1980. Men are 3.5 times more likely than women to commit suicide. As for some other things I've observed about men in America, radical feminists have unfortunately been successful in many of their goals. So much so that the media and Hollywood often portray men negatively while women are seen as smart, attractive, self-sufficient, brave and strong all while still being victims of men. Radical feminists and liberals want to give every woman the right to choose, but it's not a right that men can have. (I believe even married men cannot legally stop a woman from getting an abortion if she wants one). It seems as if the courts are biased in favor of women. Men may have at least half of the blame when it comes to divorce, but if a divorce happens, the wife usually gets half of what the man had and she gets the kids. Even the church at times may elevate women over men. I once heard a pastor say, "God loves men, but He really loves women." I heard of another church where the women's ministry had about five times the budget of the men's ministry. Yes, men sin. Some men commit terrible crimes. But it is not men being masculine that makes us sinners; we are sinners when we give in to evil temptations. That is also true of women. Sin is a human condition which all humans, except for Jesus, have participated in. Rather than running ads that subtly (or even not so subtly) demean men, I think our culture really needs examples of strong men who are caring and godly.
neptune posted a comment · Jan 17, 2019
Good article. And I agree that it's harder to be a man these days. <!--break--> Now I'm going to bring up a topic that's rarely discussed today. Many men (both Christian and non-Christian) are not fully affirmed in their masculine sides. Most people tend to see a false dichotomy in men as either 1) heterosexual or 2) homosexual. But there are many heterosexual men who aren't fully affirmed in their masculinity either. The difference is this: A homosexual male feels, "I am not a man," whereas many heterosexual males feel, "I don't measure up as a man." <!--break--> How exactly did God ordain for men to become affirmed in their masculinity? Through loving, whole fathers. But those are becoming rarer and rarer today. As a result, countless males are growing up unaffirmed as men. But there's good news—God can heal this condition (as well as the homosexual condition). One key is to understand that God is so masculine that even men are considered feminine in relation to Him—hence the Church being called His "Bride." <!--break-->Anyway, there's a book that discusses all this in detail, and also describes how to pray for the healing of men. It's called "Crisis in Masculinity" by Leanne Payne. I know that this stuff works, because I've experienced it. When I grew up, I always felt inferior to other guys. But since receiving God's healing and affirming of my masculine side, I don't anymore—I finally feel secure about myself as a man. <!--break--> I would highly recommend this book, because there are countless Christian men out there who need this kind of healing prayer in order to reach their full potentials in Christ.